From our previous blog ~ repression example, you can see that, while our ‘grown-up’ still champions their father’s ‘good’ behaviour conditioning (being quiet), reinforced by their mother’s conditioning of rewarding them for being ‘good’, they are at the same time repressing their true self, which is to be noisy and extroverted, because they see it as being ‘bad’. This ‘good’/‘bad’ scenario creates tension within their body because they feel they are not being themselves. I refer to this in FlameTree as the split mind, an unhealthy bio-electric signal and cue.
This process occurs for every human because as a child, we must learn how to interact with our environment to meet our needs and survive. This includes YOU, as you were a child once upon a time, although you underwent your own unique conditioning and created your unique default neural pathways, which operate without your conscious awareness!
The championing of one type of conditioned behaviour and the repression of your instinctual behaviour (your true self) lead to tension and stress in the BodyMind complex, creating the split mind. According to my ‘Stem cell and biofield hypothesis’, an unhealthy biofield creates an unhealthy stem cell, which scaled up means an unhealthy you!
You can prove to yourself that this split mind tension exists by performing the following simple activity:
Raise your right arm in the air as if you are holding a basketball, and with your left arm pretend to keep an excited Rottweiler, who eagerly wants to play with that basketball, at bay.
Once you try this activity, you will be able to answer this question:
Did your body feel relaxed?
No! Not a chance.
To prove my assertion, stop for a moment and think about the last time you experienced an intense emotional reaction, regardless of whether it was:
- anger at someone doing you wrong
- grief at losing a loved one
- anxiety about something going wrong
- fear of being judged or rejected
- over-excitement affecting a child’s sleep knowing that Santa Clause is coming to town!
Each of these emotional reactions provides an example of a conditioned response, most probably stemming from childhood, which results in tension and emotionally reactive behaviour. When you are in this state, you are no longer being your optimal self.
But we can learn to be more flexible in our lives and overcome our early conditioning — we can literally rewire our brain through interrupting and changing our default neural pathways.